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You’ll learn how to clear the five mental hurdles that stop us from negotiating, why big tech’s current profits give you more power than you think, and a simple trick to view your contract as a "bug" that just needs fixing.

The Story of "Sarah"

This week's LinkedIn post touched a nerve: the idea that negotiation isn’t a "personality trait" you’re born with, but a skill set you build. I wanted to dive a bit deeper today into the "internal ghosts" that keep us from asking for what we’re worth.

The offer came in, but it was lower than she expected.

My client, we’ll call her Sarah, is a powerhouse Director of Product. She’s led teams through high-stakes pivots and launched Tier-1 features. She has the absolute respect of every engineer she’s ever worked with.

But when that PDF landed in her inbox, she froze. Her internal dialogue took over:

• "The market is tough; maybe I should just take it."

• "If I ask for more, will they think I’m 'difficult' before I even start?"

• "I don’t have a competing offer to use as a hammer."

Fear was in the driver’s seat. Leverage was in the trunk.

Negotiating a job offer is as much a psychological game as a financial one. Most leaders leave money on the table not because they lack the skills, but because they are fighting limiting beliefs. Let’s bust the most common ones:

1. "If I negotiate, they might rescind the offer."

• The Reality: Rescinding is incredibly rare. By the time a company sends an offer, especially a giant like Apple, they have already decided you are the solution to their problem.

I remember this fear well. When I was offered an internship at Apple, the thought of questioning them didn't even cross my mind. They were moving me from a shared flat above a butcher's shop on West Hendon Broadway in London, to Cupertino, California, on a $37k salary. Compared to my $3k student grant, it felt like I’d won the lottery.

Because I was so afraid that "questioning" the offer would make it disappear, I stayed silent. I didn't account for the "bugs" in the move: the extreme cost of California housing, the necessity of a car, and the bite of medical insurance.

I got 1,000% more sunshine, but my actual quality of life was lower than my "shoestring" student budget back in London at the Royal College of Art. Had I treated the offer as a business discussion rather than a gift from the gods, I would have realized that $37k wasn't a windfall, it was a logistical error that needed "debugging."

• The Reframe: Negotiation isn’t an insult; it’s a feasibility study.

2. "I should just be grateful to have an offer in this market."

• The Reality: Your market value isn't dictated by the "vibes" of the economy; it’s dictated by the problem you are solving for this company. Gratitude and fair exchange are not in conflict.

That is, of course, easier said than done when you look at this year's layoff figures. According to TrueUp, so far in 2026,in the US, there have been 273 tech layoffs with 121,111 people impacted (961 people per day). In the UK, Big Tech slashed 80,000 jobs in early 2026, according to Tech Times.

The reasons for these cuts are twofold: an AI Pivot, where companies hire for AI while cutting other roles, and white-collar vulnerability, where middle management and entry-level roles are disproportionately affected.

However, this downsizing or ‘re-structuring” doesn't mean tech companies aren't doing well. Look at the Q1 2026 earnings:

• Alphabet (Google): $109.9 billion in revenue with a massive 81% surge in profits.

• Amazon: $181.5 billion in net sales, up 17% year-over-year.

• Microsoft: $82.89 billion in revenue, marking 18% growth.

• Meta Platforms: $56.31 billion in revenue (a 33% increase).

• Apple: Revenue up 16%, driven by record iPhone demand and services.

Even in the middle of a technology revolution, if you are given a low-ball offer, you need to stand up for yourself because they have the money.

• The Reframe: "I am grateful for the offer, and I want to ensure my compensation reflects the impact I’m going to have on this team."

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3. "They gave me their 'Best Offer' upfront."

• The Reality: Recruiters often have a range. Even if the base salary is capped, there is almost always "wiggle room" in sign-on bonuses, equity, or remote flexibility.

I remember being told an offer was 'final' because of 'internal equity’. The idea that they couldn't pay me more than the current team. I didn't argue; I just asked my future manager if the current budget accounted for the specific expertise I was bringing. 

Two days later, a 'newly approved' retention bonus appeared in the contract. The recruiter wasn't lying about their limit, but the hiring manager found a different pot of money once they realized the cost of not hiring me was higher. Has this ever happened to you?

• The Reframe: The "best offer" is usually just the best offer so far.

4. "I don't have a competing offer, so I have no leverage."

• The Reality: Your greatest leverage isn't another company, it's your unique value and your willingness to walk away. If you say no, the hiring manager has to start an expensive, months-long search all over again.

Many professionals believe they need a "poker chip" in the form of a competing offer to win. I’ve never gone after roles just to get multiple offers, it's just not my style.

It took me until my 40s to finally say "no" to an offer that didn't meet my expectations. When I stood my ground, the pushback was immediate. They suggested there would be "significant risk" in having to go back to the CEO for a higher salary. It was a classic pressure tactic designed to make me fold. I didn't fold. I stayed firm, they got the confirmation, and I got the increase. The delight I felt wasn't just about the extra money; it was the realization that I held the cards all along.

• The Reframe: Your leverage is your data and your specific expertise.

5. "I'm not a 'Sales Person'; I'm not good at this."

• The Reality: In tech, negotiation isn't "haggling." It’s collaborative problem-solving.

I once accepted a "dream role" that, upon closer inspection, was structurally unsound. The contract was riddled with red flags: an inaccurate title, a lower job level than discussed, and a stifling non-compete clause.

My gut screamed at me to negotiate, but my circumstances shouted louder. I was early in my career and only days away from visa expiration after being let go by Apple when they closed the R&D lab after Steve Jobs returned to lead again in 1997. To avoid the discomfort of confrontation, and the looming threat of deportation, I stayed silent and signed.

The immediate result was that I saved my legal status, but I couldn't save the job. Because the foundation was built on "bugs" I never addressed, the role never truly fit, and I was let go only a year later. 

In trying to protect my future, I realized I had sabotaged my own professional architecture; by not walking away, or at least speaking up, I traded long-term career alignment for a short-term safety net that eventually collapsed anyway.

• The Reframe: Treat it as a technical requirement. You are simply debugging the contract until it functions correctly for both parties.

Back to Sarah

When Sarah and I hopped on our coaching call, she was ready to settle for "good enough." In 60 minutes, we shifted her perspective:

• We separated "Base" from "Package": The recruiter said the salary was at the ceiling. Fine. We ignored the ceiling and looked at the floor: the sign-on bonus and the vesting schedule.

• We scripted the "Neutral Voice": We practiced her ask until the "umms" and "sorrys" disappeared. She stopped sounding like she was asking for a favor and started sounding like a consultant closing a deal.

• The "Preferred Candidate" Pivot: I reminded her: This company isn't doing you a favor. They have a problem, and you are the solution they want.

• The Result: Sarah secured a $15k sign-on bonus, a written path to VP, and a specialized development budget the recruiter "didn't think existed." Most importantly, she started Day 1 feeling fully backed and respected, not "haggled down."

🚀 The Short of It Is

Negotiation is the final stage of the interview. By advocating for yourself, you are demonstrating the very skills they are hiring you for: communication, strategy, and the ability to handle high-stakes situations.

This is one of the four pillars of my 90 Day Career Accelerator program. If you’re expecting an offer soon and want to ensure you aren’t leaving your future on the table, let’s talk. 

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